Responses to Sin

What do we do when we sin? There are perhaps four responses when someone sins against us. First, we can ignore it. Second, we can get revenge. Third, we can get even. And fourth, we can forgive. I say perhaps four responses because ignoring an insult or trespass can work if you never see that person again, but if it is someone you see all the time, ignoring sin encourages the person to do it again. That, in turn will build up resentment in your mind and spirit, which becomes dangerous for you to carry around. You become likely to lash out at the offending party, or even at unsuspecting friends or family who happen to look at you the wrong way. Once you lash out, you are no longer ignoring.

Revenge is sweet, as the saying goes. But “It is mine to avenge; I will repay, says the Lord (Romans 12:19)” Why does God not want us to seek revenge? Blood feuds become a way of life, whether it is the Hatfields and the McCoys, the English and the Irish, the Jews and the Arabs or any number of bitter enemies. No one remembers who first gave offense, and no one will stop until their side gets the last word.

Getting even, retributive justice, is a Biblical concept, also found in Hammurabi’s Code and other places as well. Deuteronomy 19:21 states, “Show no pity: life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.” There is a certain fairness to retribution. “Don’t get mad, get even.” But has Gandhi memorably replied, “An eye for an eye makes the world blind.”

Lastly, we can forgive. Please do not “forgive and forget”. That is not a Biblical concept. It may open you up to being used or abused. Forgive, even if the other person has not asked for forgiveness. Then you can seek justice, not revenge. And let your justice be infused with mercy whenever possible. Matthew 5:6-7 says, “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.” Righteousness (justice) first, then mercy.